Given the recent changes to the lockdown restrictions on our lives, I wanted to share something with you that, hopefully, you will read and stay with you in these challenging times. Basically, I wanted to remind you of 3 key things, and they are:
You matter
You're important and, perhaps most of all
You're loved
And those 3 things mean that you’re enough, just as you are…
However, you do not become enough based on something you did or said, but because of;
Who you are
Your thoughts and your passions
The strength in your heart and your ability to give others
The way you love and the sense of humour you share with the world
In fact, every part of who you are is what makes you enough.
It’s a human trait to compare yourself to others, but it's also mentally draining, frustrating and, essentially, puts you at war with yourself! There is no need to change how you are to please others. If someone doesn't like you, for you, then you don’t want or need those people in your life.
You shouldn't try to change the way you dress, talk or look in order to gain approval from someone, to satisfy their definition of enough and you don't need anyone's affection or approval in order to be perceived as good enough.
When someone rejects you, abandons you or judges you, it's actually more about their insecurity and limitations, and you certainly don't have to internalise someone else’s issues.
Your worth isn't dependent upon other people’s acceptance of you - it's something more inherent – and remember, you are allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings and you are allowed to assert your needs and take up space.
You are allowed to hold onto the truth – the truth being that who you are is exactly enough. You are strong enough to handle any challenges, wise enough to find solutions to your own problems and capable enough to do whatever needs to be done.
Feeling good enough is a mindset. The inner dialogue we have with ourselves is powerful, because we believe what we say. If we keep telling ourselves negative things, this only creates low self-esteem.
Give yourself, what you would expect to receive from others.
You are whole, without someone or something else. You are not a fraction; you are complete all by yourself and you do not need anyone to validate your existence.
Lack of self-confidence stems from many things, such as being abused, rejected, abandoned or, in some way, emotionally damaged; whereas self-love is the key to healing.
You need to stop asking for permission and seeking acceptance from those who truly don't care about you. Start loving yourself completely, trust me, you got this.
Never discount who you are and what you bring to the table, in all aspects of your life because, the moment you do, others will see you that way as well.
Never settle for less than you deserve - when you believe you deserve the best, it’s what you will receive.
You are enough, and don’t let anyone or anything tell you otherwise!
After all, “you are God's Masterpiece” (Ephesians 2:10 NLT)
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