The aim of counselling is to provide you with a confidential opportunity for you to explore your thoughts and feelings in safety, to assist your learning, understanding and growth.
People decide to enter into counselling for many different reasons. It could be that they want to explore and understand their thoughts, feelings, and behaviours or they may have a specific problem that they would like to solve.
My role is to help you through this process without judgement or telling you what to do. I will help you, and to make a plan to develop goals to help you move forward.
ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION
Anxiety and Depression are different conditions, but they commonly occur together.
Feeling down or having the blues now and then is normal. And everyone feels anxious from time to time — it's a normal response to stressful situations. But severe or ongoing feelings of depression and anxiety can be a sign of an underlying mental health disorder.
Anxiety may occur as a symptom of clinical (major) depression. It's also common to have depression that's triggered by an anxiety disorder, such as generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder or separation anxiety disorder. Many people have a diagnosis of both an anxiety disorder and clinical depression.
Counselling aims to help you identify the triggers , and work out coping strategies and therapeutic tools in order to be able to deal with these more effectively.
You can also avoid the waiting lists frequently experienced by people accessing counselling through the NHS, by getting in touch a booking a free initial session with me.
LOW SELF ESTEEM / CONFIDENCE
Self-esteem is the relationship you have with yourself. It can be nurtured or starved through the "self-talk" or stream of thoughts we experience.
Counselling can help you uncover what you want, begin to help you take care of yourself, learn to relax more and take time for yourself. Some clients find it uncomfortable at first to think about themselves, that they matter, but this forms first steps in improving self-confidence.
The way you think and feel about yourself
Counselling can give you the skills to:
Retrain your mind to let go of negative self-talk
Improve your social skills & confidence
Be more assertive and get heard
Let go of past failures and let-downs
Develop a solid & positive sense of self
In counselling you may experiment with these new ideas and begin to change old, outdated patterns and "scripts". Sometimes this means beginning to think in terms of "I want" rather than "I should".
You will be invited to get to know yourself more through counselling and begin to value yourself more.
Counselling can help you develop assertiveness skills, helping you identify your feelings and thoughts and expressing these, for example learning to say "no"
RELATIONSHIPS / FAMILY
There are many issues which come up in Relationship/Couple Counselling, here are a few:
Difficulties with communication
Imbalance regards each individuals contribution to the relationship
Childhood and family dynamics impacting negatively on the relationship
Allowing others to be dominant or abusive.
Not voicing or meeting your own personal needs from a relationship.
All relationship difficulties are likely to result in distance and resentment between a couple if they are not addressed. The longer they go unresolved the more chance a relationship will eventually breakdown completely and/ or one partner may look elsewhere to have their needs met. In order for relationship counselling to work, both individuals have to be willing to prioritise their relationships needs. They have to be committed to making appropriate changes or ‘doing things differently’ in order to benefit the future of their relationship. If the relationship is going to work both parties need to be willing to meet somewhere in the middle/reach a compromise regards their ‘differences’ which feels ‘good enough’ for each of their needs, expectations, values etc.
Family plays an important role in our physical, emotional and spiritual development throughout our lives. Family is where we learn how to relate to others, how to express our emotions and how to develop our values and beliefs. When families encounter change following a bereavement, a divorce, moving to a new place, serious mental or physical illness, or child and adolescent issues, they may find it difficult to adapt. All families experience similar issues, but every family is different. The counselling process, therefore, can help family members to communicate with each other in a healthier way, support them to find ways to resolve their family problems and help them to understand and manage their unique family situation.
What issues can I help you work on through family counselling?
Counselling provides a confidential and supportive environment for you to work through any difficulties you may be having in your relationship. The relationship will usually be between a couple (married, co-habiting, heterosexual or same sex) but it may also be between members of the same family, friends or other. It will allow you to explore these issues safely and without judgement in order for you to gain clarity and a way.
If you would like to book a session to discuss through any of these issues please get in touch.